RECOMMENDATIONS
This collection of resources is designed to support individuals and families as they explore and reflect on end-of-life. Here, you’ll find a curated selection of books, films, podcasts, and talks that offer different perspectives, insights, and approaches to understanding this deeply personal journey.
We recognize that everyone connects with these topics in their own way, so we invite you to explore what resonates with you and return to what feels most meaningful along the way.
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Advice for Future Corpses by Sallie Tisdale
Former NEA fellow and Pushcart Prize-winning writer Sallie Tisdale offers a lyrical, thought-provoking, yet practical perspective on death and dying in Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them). Informed by her many years working as a nurse, with more than a decade in palliative care, Tisdale provides a frank, direct, and compassionate meditation on the inevitable
From the sublime (the faint sound of Mozart as you take your last breath) to the ridiculous (lessons on how to close the sagging jaw of a corpse), Tisdale leads us through the peaks and troughs of death with a calm, wise, and humorous hand. Advice for Future Corpses is more than a how-to manual or a spiritual bible: it is a graceful compilation of honest and intimate anecdotes based on the deaths Tisdale has witnessed in her work and life, as well as stories from cultures, traditions, and literature around the world.
Tisdale explores all the heartbreaking, beautiful, terrifying, confusing, absurd, and even joyful experiences that accompany the work of dying, including:
A Good Death: What does it mean to die “a good death”? Can there be more than one kind of good death? What can I do to make my death, or the deaths of my loved ones, good?
Communication: What to say and not to say, what to ask, and when, from the dying, loved ones, doctors, and more.
Last Months, Weeks, Days, and Hours: What you might expect, physically and emotionally, including the limitations, freedoms, pain, and joy of this unique time.
Bodies: What happens to a body after death? What options are available to me after my death, and how do I choose—and make sure my wishes are followed?
Grief: “Grief is the story that must be told over and over…Grief is the breath after the last one.”
Beautifully written and compulsively readable, Advice for Future Corpses offers the resources and reassurance that we all need for planning the ends of our lives and is essential reading for future corpses everywhere. “Sallie Tisdale’s elegantly understated new book pretends to be a user’s guide when in fact it’s a profound meditation” (David Shields, bestselling author of Reality Hunger).

The Art of Death by Edwidge Danticat
“She wanted something in between, just enough time to put her affairs in order and get a few things off her chest. She got her wish. Not everyone gets theirs.”
A moving reflection on a subject that touches us all, by the bestselling author of Claire of the Sea Light
Edwidge Danticat’s The Art of Death: Writing the Final Story is at once a personal account of her mother dying from cancer and a deeply considered reckoning with the ways that other writers have approached death in their own work. “Writing has been the primary way I have tried to make sense of my losses,” Danticat notes in her introduction. “I have been writing about death for as long as I have been writing.” The book moves outward from the shock of her mother’s diagnosis and sifts through Danticat’s writing life and personal history, all the while shifting fluidly from examples that range from Gabriel García Márquez’s One Hundred Years of Solitude to Toni Morrison’s Sula. The narrative, which continually circles the many incarnations of death from individual to large-scale catastrophes, culminates in a beautiful, heartrending prayer in the voice of Danticat’s mother. A moving tribute and a work of astute criticism, The Art of Death is a book that will profoundly alter all who encounter it.

The Art of Dying Well by Katy Butler
The Art of Dying – written by the New York Times bestselling author of Knocking on Heaven’s Door – is a reassuring and thoroughly researched guide to maintaining a high quality of life—from resilient old age to the first inklings of a serious illness to the final breath.
Packed with extraordinarily helpful insights and inspiring true stories, award-winning journalist Katy Butler shows how to thrive in later life, how to get the best from our health system, and how to make your own “good death” more likely. This handbook of step by step preparations—practical, communal, physical, and sometimes spiritual—will help you make the most of your remaining time, be it decades, years, or months.

Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore
When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable—especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting, “NO!” with every fiber of our body. The process of grieving can feel wild and nonlinear—and often lasts for much longer than other people, the nonbereaved, tell us it should.
Organized into fifty-two short chapters, Bearing the Unbearable is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity. Dr. Joanne Cacciatore—bereavement educator, researcher, Zen priest, and leading counselor in the field—accompanies us along the heartbreaking path of love, loss, and grief. Through moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities—as well as her own experience with loss—Cacciatore opens a space to process, integrate, and deeply honor our grief.
Not just for the bereaved, Bearing the Unbearable will be required reading for grief counselors, therapists and social workers, clergy of all varieties, educators, academics, and medical professionals. Organized into fifty-two accessible and stand-alone chapters, this book is also perfect for being read aloud in support groups.

Beautiful Aches by Lauren Taylor

This is a 90-Day Guided Grief Journal for Healing, Remembering, and Carrying Love Forward
When you’ve lost a child, the ache feels unbearable, but your love is still alive. Beautiful Aches was created as a gentle companion for grieving mothers, fathers, and families walking through the hardest season of life. This 90-day guided journal offers daily prompts, reflections, and acts of care to help you process your grief, honor your memories, and slowly rediscover hope.

A Beginner's Guide to the End
The first ever practical, compassionate, and comprehensive guide to dying—and living fully until you do.
“There is nothing wrong with you for dying,” palliative care doctor B.J. Miller and Shoshana Berger write in A Beginner’s Guide to the End. “Our ultimate purpose here isn’t so much to help you die as it is to free up as much life as possible until you do.”
Theirs is a clear-eyed and big-hearted action plan for approaching the end of life, written to help readers feel more in control of an experience that so often seems anything but controllable. Their book offers everything from step-by-step instructions for how to do your paperwork and navigate the healthcare system to answers to questions you might be afraid to ask your doctor, like whether or not sex is still okay when you’re sick. You’ll be walked through how to break the news to your employer, whether to share old secrets with your family, how to face friends who might not be as empathetic as you’d hoped, and to how to talk to your children about your will. (Don’t worry: if anyone gets snippy, it’ll likely be their spouses, not them.) There are also lessons for survivors, like how to shut down a loved one’s social media accounts, clean out the house, and write a great eulogy.
An honest, surprising, and detailed-oriented guide to the most universal of all experiences, A Beginner’s Guide to the End is the one book that everyone needs.

Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
Being Mortal was named Best Book of the Year by The Washington Post, The New York Times Book Review, NPR, and the Chicago Tribune.
Through eye-opening research and gripping stories of his own patients and family, Atul Gawande, a practicing surgeon, has fearlessly revealed the struggles of his profession. Riveting, honest, and humane, Being Mortal shows how the ultimate goal is not a good death but a good life-all the way to the very end.

The Best Care Possible by Ira Byock, MD
Dr. Ira Byock, a doctor on the front lines of hospital care, illuminates the most important and controversial social issues of our time in The Best Care Possible.
One of the foremost palliative-care physicians in the country, Dr. Ira Byock argues that how we die represents a national crisis. To ensure the best possible elder care, Dr. Byock explains we must not only remake our healthcare system but also move beyond our cultural aversion to thinking about death.
The Best Care Possible is a compelling meditation on medicine and ethics told through page-turning life-or-death medical drama. It has paved the way for a national conversation.

Briefly Perfectly Human by Alua Arthur

“By envisioning who I want to be on my deathbed, I invited life in.”
—Alua Arthur
For her clients and everyone who has been inspired by her humanity, Alua Arthur is a friend at the end of the world. As our country’s leading death doula, she’s spreading a transformative message: thinking about your death—whether imminent or not—will breathe wild, new potential into your life.
Warm, generous, and funny AF, Alua supports and helps manage end-of-life care on many levels. The business matters, medical directives, memorial planning; but also honoring the quiet moments, when monitors are beeping and loved ones have stepped out to get some air—or maybe not shown up at all—and her clients become deeply contemplative and want to talk. Aching, unfinished business often emerges. Alua has been present for thousands of these sacred moments—when regrets, fears, secret joys, hidden affairs, and dim realities are finally said aloud. When this happens, Alua focuses her attention at the pulsing center of her clients’ anguish and creates space for them, and sometimes their loved ones, to find peace.
This has had a profound effect on Alua, who was already no stranger to death’s periphery. Her family fled a murderous coup d’état in Ghana in the 1980s. She has suffered major, debilitating depressions. And her dear friend and brother-in-law died of lymphoma. Advocating for him in his final months is what led Alua to her life’s calling. She knows firsthand the power of bearing witness and telling the truth about life’s painful complexities, because they do not disappear when you look the other way. They wait for you.
Briefly Perfectly Human is a life-changing, soul-gathering debut, by a writer whose empathy, tenderness, and wisdom shimmers on the page. Alua Arthur combines intimate storytelling with a passionate appeal for loving, courageous end-of-life care—what she calls “death embrace.” Hers is a powerful testament to getting in touch with something deeper in our lives, by embracing the fact of our own mortality. “Hold that truth in your mind,” Alua says, “and wondrous things will begin to grow around it.”

Contemplative Caregiving by John Eric Baugher, Ph.D.
Blending personal insights from twenty-five years of hospice volunteering with contemplative social science research, Contemplative Caregiving offers practical lessons about the transformative possibilities of compassionate end-of-life caregiving.
After author John Baugher’s mother was murdered in 1987, Baugher turned to hospice volunteering as a way to channel his experience, marking the beginning of a twenty-five-year journey of exploration–in both public hospices and prison hospice programs–and the possibility of discovering compassion and even humor in the face of death. In this beautifully written book, Baugher weaves together insights from his experience with those gleaned from interviews with dozens of hospice volunteers from widely varying backgrounds.

Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into a Life Reimagined by Laura Berman, PhD
Grief doesn’t like to be quiet. It doesn’t care for euphemisms, small talk, or polite avoidance. It wants to be felt—fully, honestly, and out loud.
In Crying Out Loud, renowned therapist and bestselling author Dr. Laura Berman draws from decades of clinical experience and the devastating loss of her own son to show us that grief is not just pain—it can be a portal. When met directly, it becomes a path of transformation that burns away what is not essential, expands your heart, and connects you more deeply to life and love.
Blending grounded therapeutic tools with spiritual insight, this book helps you:
- Process overwhelming emotions and mental fog
- Reconnect with your body to release stored pain
- Channel grief into creativity, growth, and renewed purpose
- Build meaningful connections with both the living and the departed
With simple practices for every level of emotional energy, Crying Out Loud is a wise, healing companion. This is not about “getting over” loss. It’s about moving through it with support, and emerging more whole, more grounded, more empowered, and more deeply connected to the love that continues.

Cultivating the Doula Heart: Essential of Compassionate Care by Francesca Lynn Arnoldy

Loss is difficult…and universal. What do we say? What do we do?
Part how-to guide, part hopeful manifesto, Cultivating the Doula Heart provides a clear framework for supporting those facing hardship, grief, and loss. Succinct and straightforward, this “work of heart” covers: Components of Doula Care, Aspects of Loss, Ways of Being/Ways of Doing, Grief Support, and Contemplative Exercises.
Readers will feel empowered to move from sympathy to empathy to compassion. The doula heart can be readily infused into all work and into any relationship.

Do Death by Amanda Blainey
Death has a 100 per cent success rate. We can’t escape its inevitability, nor can we deny its existence. So, when someone close to us dies or we are confronted by our own mortality, why are we utterly unprepared?
In Do Death, social activist Amanda Blainey seeks to transform our lives through our relationship with death. By inviting us to accept death as a natural part of life, she encourages us to think about what really matters – and live more consciously. With uplifting wisdom from leaders and visionaries, Do Death will:
- Help us rediscover the power of human connection
- Inspire us to think and talk about death more openly
- Offer sage advice on how to navigate grief, and talk to children
- Empower us to be better prepared, both practically and emotionally
Death can be our greatest teacher. This book is a manual for living, at any stage in life.

The Empty Chair: Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occasions by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge R.N., Ed.D. and Robert C. DeVries D.Min. Ph.D.
Losing a loved one–whether a spouse, parent, child, sibling, or friend–leaves people feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. Holidays and other special occasions seem to intensify the pain. Whether the occasion is Christmas or Easter, a birthday or anniversary, these celebrations force the bereaved to again face the reality of a loved one’s absence.
Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. De Vries know firsthand the sorrow of bereavement: Both lost a spouse. Yet, as they faced their pain and gleaned insights from their professions — Susan is a psychologist and Robert a minister — they found renewed richness on special days that once brought heartache.
In The Empty Chair, the authors share a comforting blend of emotional support, spiritual guidance, and personal experience to help readers honor their loved ones on important days. Those who support the bereaved — mental-health professionals, pastors, funeral home staff, and others — will also appreciate this book for its reflective yet practical approach.

The Empty Room by Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn
Ted is Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn’s older brother, best friend, and the “ringmaster of her days.” On a September morning when she is six, she wakes up and Ted is gone. Her parents explain that he went to the hospital for a while. “A while” turns out to be eight years in a plastic bubble, where he dies of a rare autoimmune disease at age seventeen.
The Empty Room is DeVita-Raeburn’s unflinching, often haunting recollection of life with Ted, woven into a larger exploration of the enormous — and often unacknowledged — impact of a sister’s or brother’s death on remaining siblings.
With an inspired blend of life experience, journalistic acumen, and research training, DeVita-Raeburn draws on interviews of more than two hundred survivors to render a powerful portrait of the range of conditions and emotions, from withdrawal to guilt to rage, that attend such loss. Finding little in professional literature, she realizes that those who suffer are the experts. And in the end, it is DeVita-Raeburn and her experts who present a larger, more complex understanding of the sibling bond, the lifelong impact of the severing of that bond, and the tools needed to heal and move forward.
The Empty Room is a fascinating literary hybrid in which Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn seamlessly fuses deeply affecting remembrance with a pragmatic, lucidly written exploration of the healing journey.

Extreme Measures by Jessica Nutik Zitter, MD
For readers of Being Mortal and Modern Death, an ICU and Palliative Care specialist offers a framework for a better way to exit life that will change our medical culture at the deepest level
In medical school, no one teaches you how to let a patient die.
Jessica Zitter became a doctor because she wanted to be a hero. She elected to specialize in critical care—to become an ICU physician—and imagined herself swooping in to rescue patients from the brink of death. But then during her first code she found herself cracking the ribs of a patient so old and frail it was unimaginable he would ever come back to life. She began to question her choice.
Extreme Measures charts Zitter’s journey from wanting to be one kind of hero to becoming another—a doctor who prioritizes the patient’s values and preferences in an environment where the default choice is the extreme use of technology. In our current medical culture, the old and the ill are put on what she terms the End-of-Life Conveyor belt. They are intubated, catheterized, and even shelved away in care facilities to suffer their final days alone, confused, and often in pain. In her work Zitter has learned what patients fear more than death itself: the prospect of dying badly. She builds bridges between patients and caregivers, formulates plans to allay patients’ pain and anxiety, and enlists the support of loved ones so that life can end well, even beautifully.
Filled with rich patient stories that make a compelling medical narrative, Extreme Measures enlarges the national conversation as it thoughtfully and compassionately examines an experience that defines being human.

Fifteen Lesson by Nadine Semer, MD, MPH
Initially trained as a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Nadine Semer shifted her focus ten years ago into the world of palliative medicine.
She and her team see the challenges and day-to-day realities of patients having to navigate our healthcare system while dealing with a serious illness.
It’s hard, for everyone involved.
This book represents insights Dr. Semer has gleaned over the years. Through discussion of vignettes based on actual patients, her goal is to help healthcare providers connect with their patients to counter the current challenges of our US healthcare system, which sadly often impedes the development of an effective and therapeutic provider-patient relationship.
Dr. Semer’s hope is that the information conveyed in this book will benefit patients, families, and healthcare providers alike.

Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley
In this moving and compassionate classic, hospice nurses Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share their intimate experiences with patients at the end of life, drawn from more than twenty years’ experience tending the terminally ill.
Filled with practical advice on responding to the requests of the dying and helping them prepare emotionally and spiritually for death, Final Gifts shows how we can help the dying person live fully to the very end.

The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski
The cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project and pioneer behind the compassionate care movement shares an inspiring exploration of the lessons dying has to offer about living a fulfilling life.
Death is not waiting for us at the end of a long road. Death is always with us, in the marrow of every passing moment. She is the secret teacher hiding in plain sight, helping us to discover what matters most.
Life and death are a package deal. They cannot be pulled apart and we cannot truly live unless we are aware of death. The Five Invitations is an exhilarating meditation on the meaning of life and how maintaining an ever-present consciousness of death can bring us closer to our truest selves. As a renowned teacher of compassionate caregiving and the cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, Frank Ostaseski has sat on the precipice of death with more than a thousand people. In The Five Invitations, he distills the lessons gleaned over the course of his career, offering an evocative and stirring guide that points to a radical path to transformation.

Forever Life by Carol Pobanz
Forever Life is a tender and reassuring story that helps young readers or anyone who has experienced loss understand life, love, and loss in a gentle and comforting way. The story follows Charlie, who is grieving the loss of his mother, as he has a conversation with his wise Gramma. In Gramma’s comforting way she explains the concept of three lives: the first life, which takes place before birth in the womb, where a baby is surrounded by warmth and water, preparing for the second life on Earth, where people learn how to love, grow, and share with family and friends, preparing for the third life. The third life, which is eternal life in Heaven, where LOVE becomes the breath of existence, and spirits reunite. Through this touching explanation, Charlie learns that his mother, though physically gone, is still present in spirit, watching over him. The story reassures all readers that love never disappears—it only grows, guiding us toward our own FOREVER LIFE.

The Four Things That Matter Most by Ira Byock, M.D.
Four simple phrases— “Please forgive me,” “I forgive you,” “Thank you,” and “I love you”—carry enormous power to mend and nurture our relationships and inner lives. These four phrases and the sentiments they convey provide a path to emotional wellbeing, guiding us through interpersonal difficulties to life with integrity and grace.
Dr. Ira Byock, an international leader in palliative care, explains how we can practice these life-affirming words in our day-to-day lives. Too often we assume that the people we love really know that we love them.
Using the Four Things in a wide range of life situations, we can experience emotional healing even in the wake of family strife, personal tragedy, divorce, or in the face of death. With practical wisdom and spiritual power, The Four Things That Matter Most gives us the language and guidance to honor and experience what really matters most in our lives every day.

From Scratch by Tembi Locke
A poignant and transporting cross-cultural love story set against the lush backdrop of the Sicilian countryside, where one woman discovers the healing powers of food, family, and unexpected grace in her darkest hour.
It was love at first sight when Tembi met professional chef, Saro, on a street in Florence. There was just one problem: Saro’s traditional Sicilian family did not approve of him marrying a black American woman, an actress no less. However, the couple, heartbroken but undeterred, forges on. They build a happy life in Los Angeles, with fulfilling careers, deep friendships and the love of their lives: a baby girl they adopt at birth. Eventually, they reconcile with Saro’s family just as he faces a formidable cancer that will consume all their dreams.
From Scratch chronicles three summers Tembi spends in Sicily with her daughter, Zoela, as she begins to piece together a life without her husband in his tiny hometown hamlet of farmers. Where once Tembi was estranged from Saro’s family and his origins, now she finds solace and nourishment—literally and spiritually—at her mother in law’s table. In the Sicilian countryside, she discovers the healing gifts of simple fresh food, the embrace of a close-knit community, and timeless traditions and wisdom that light a path forward. All along the way she reflects on her and Saro’s incredible romance—an indelible love story that leaps off the pages.
In Sicily, it is said that every story begins with a marriage or a death—in Tembi Locke’s case, it is both. Her story is about loss, but it’s really about love found. Her story is about travel, but it’s really about finding a home. It is about food, but it’s really about chasing flavor as an act of remembrance. From Scratch is for anyone who has dared to reach for big love, fought for what mattered most, and needed a powerful reminder that life is…delicious.

The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman
Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, this classic resource further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.
Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others’, the authors illustrate how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity.
Based on a proven program, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to move beyond loss. New material in this edition includes guidance for dealing with:
- Loss of faith
- Loss of career and financial issues
- Loss of health
- Growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home
The Grief Recovery Handbook is a groundbreaking, classic handbook that everyone should have in their library.
“This book is required for all my classes. The more I use this book, the more I believe that unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people’s lives. It is the only work of its kind that I know of that outlines the problem and provides the solution.”—Bernard McGrane, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, Chapman University

Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back by Kelly Farley with David DiCola
Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back is a collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two year period. The book offers insight from fellow members of, in the haunting words of one dad, “this terrible, terrible club,” which consists of men who have experienced the death of a child.
This book is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale. They are real stories that pull no punches and are told with brutal honesty. Men that have shared their deepest and darkest moments. Moments that included thoughts of suicide, self-medication and homelessness. Some of these men have found their way back from the brink while others are still standing there, stuck in their pain.
The core message of Grieving Dads is “you’re not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society’s expectations.
Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back is a book that no grieving dad or anyone who cares for him should be without.
As any grieving parent will tell you, there are no words to describe the hell one experiences after the death of a child. Many men have no clue how to deal with or understand the myriad emotional, mental, and physical responses experienced after the death of a child. Stories appearing in the book have been carefully selected to represent a cross-section of fathers, as well as a diverse portrayal of loss. This approach helps reflect the full spectrum of grief, from the early days of shock and trauma to the long view after living with loss for many years. Any bereaved father will find brotherhood in these pages, and will feel that someone understands them.
While there is plenty of raw emotion in this book, the stories are not exercises in self-pity nor are they studies in grief. They are survival stories instead. Some are testimonies to hope. Some are gut-wrenching accounts of overwhelming despair. But all of them are real-life stories from real-life grieving dads, and they show that even if one reaches his physical and emotional bottom, it is possible (although not easy) to live through that pain and find one’s way to the other side of grief.

Grieving the Child I Never Knew by Kathe Wunnenberg

When the anticipation of your child’s birth turns into the grief of miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death, no words can ease your loss. But there is strength and encouragement in the wisdom of others who have been there and found that God’s comfort is real. Grieving the Child I Never Knew is a warm, encouraging, and truly helpful devotional for anyone experiencing the terrible loss of a baby.
Author Kathe Wunnenberg knows the deep anguish of losing a child, having experienced three miscarriages and the death of an infant son. Grieving the Child I Never Knew is a 31-day devotional to help mothers:
- Grieve honestly and well
- Process gentle questions and insights from others
- Cultivate a healing journey that works for them
Each devotion includes:
- Scripture passage and prayer
- Steps Toward Healing questions
- Space for journaling
- Readings for holidays and special occasions
Grieving the Child I Never Knew is a wise and tender companion for mothers whose hearts have been broken, mothers whose dreams have been shattered, and who wonder how to go on.

The Group by Donald L. Rosenstein and Justin M. Yopp
The Group offers a singular perspective on grief by weaving together the latest thinking on bereavement, resiliency and post-traumatic growth with the true story of seven men who were raising children on their own after the deaths of their wives. The men connected with each almost immediately, and over the next several years forged a deep bond as their monthly meetings evolved into a forum for healing and personal reinvention that transformed them in unexpected ways.
The authors co-led the support group and partnered with the men to write their story, which is interspersed with the latest in bereavement research conveyed in an easily relatable way. The fathers’ touching efforts to care for themselves, their families, and each other offers a gripping narrative that shows how each of us has the potential to rebuild new and meaningful lives.
Powerful, enlightening and hopeful, The Group will help you make sense of grief and inspire you to reimagine your life moving forward.

The Hot Young Widows Club by Nora McInerny
From the host of the popular podcast, Terrible, Thanks for Asking, comes a wise, humorous roadmap and caring resource for anyone going through the loss of a loved one—or even a difficult life moment.
In the span of a few weeks, thirty-something Nora McInerny had a miscarriage, lost her father to cancer, and lost her husband due to a brain tumor. Her life fell apart. Based on her own experiences and those of the listeners dedicated to her podcast, Terrible, Thanks for Asking, Nora offers wise, heartfelt, and often humorous advice to anyone navigating a painful period in their lives. She explores how readers can educate the people around them
The Hot Young Widows Club is an essential tool for anyone who has gone through a major life struggle helping others understand what to do, what to say, and how to best to lend their support. This book is a space for people to recognize that they aren’t alone, and to learn how to get through life’s hardest moments with grace, humor, and hope.

Let's Talk About Death Over Dinner by Michael Hebb
Of the many critical conversations we will all have throughout our lifetime; few are as important as the ones discussing death. Yet few of these conversations are happening. Inspired by his experience with his own father and countless stories from others who regret not having these conversations, Michael Hebb cofounded Death Over Dinner–an organization that encourages people to pull up a chair, break bread, and talk about the one thing we all have in common
Death Over Dinner has been one of the most effective end-of-life awareness campaigns to date. it has provided the framework and inspiration for more than a hundred thousand dinners focused on having end-of-life conversations.
Let’s Talk About Death (Over Dinner) offers keen practical advice on how to have these same conversations–not just at the dinner table, but anywhere. By transforming the most difficult conversations into an opportunity, they become celebratory and meaningful in ways that not only can change the way we die, but the way we live.

Life after the Diagnosis by Steven Pantilat, MD
In Life After the Diagnosis, Dr. Steven Z. Pantilat, a renowned international expert in palliative care demystifies the medical system for patients and their families. He makes sense of what doctors say, what they actually mean, and how to get the best information to help make the best medical decisions.
Dr. Pantilat covers everything from the first steps after a diagnosis and finding the right caregiving and support, to planning your future so your loved ones don’t have to. He offers advice on how to tackle the most difficult treatment decisions and discussions, shows readers how to choose treatments that help more than they hurt, stay consistent with their values and personal goals, and live as well as possible for as long as possible.

The Long Goodbye: A Memoir by Meghan O'Rourke

In The Long Goodbye, Meghan O’Rourke explores what it means to grieve in a culture that often lacks space for mourning. After losing her mother to cancer at a young age, O’Rourke confronts a depth of sorrow she feels wholly unprepared for, documenting her experience in the raw, immediate aftermath of loss.
Blending intimate reflection with broader insights, she captures the paradox of grief—its overwhelming weight alongside its quiet, deeply personal moments. As she recounts caring for her mother during her illness, O’Rourke reveals how their relationship deepened, even as her world began to unravel through loss and personal upheaval.
Both a story of heartbreak and resilience, this lyrical and candid memoir examines how memory, love, and family can guide us through grief. Thoughtful and deeply human, The Long Goodbye offers readers a powerful meditation on loss and the enduring bonds that shape us.

Modern Death by Haider Warraich, M.D.
Dr. Haider Warraich is a young and brilliant voice in the conversation about death and dying. Dr. Warraich takes a broader look at how we die today, from the cellular level up to the very definition of death itself.
Modern Death explores the rituals and language of dying that have developed in the last century, and how modern technology has not only changed the hows, whens, and wheres of death, but the what of death.
This book provides readers with an enriched understanding of how death differs from the past, what our ancestors got right, and how trends and events have transformed this most final of human experiences.

Now That She's Gone: A Daughter's Reflections on Loss, Love, and a Mother's Legacy by Chelsea Ohlemiller
What will I do without her?
The day your mother dies is the day you acquire a powerful and persistent new companion–grief. It is also the day you become the keeper of a legacy that has the potential to affect generations to come. Between a past you can’t let go of and a future you can hardly find the energy to think about, you stand. The ground may feel shaky, but it is sacred. And it must be tread.
With vulnerability and honesty, Chelsea Ohlemiller walks you through her own journey of grief at the loss of her mother in order to help you along yours. These raw reflections on heartbreak, love, and hope in the midst of sorrow can help you put words to your own tangled feelings when you are speechless with grief.
Chelsea does not couch her narrative in spiritual jargon or edit her feelings into “acceptable” sentiments that ultimately mean nothing and help no one. Instead, she invites you to be radically honest about your anger, disbelief, and sorrow so that you can move forward–even if it feels like you will never be able to move on.
Whether you had a great relationship with your mother or a complicated one, you will find in this book a compassionate and understanding friend for the days, months, and years to come.

On Death & Dying by Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D.
One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross explores the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives readers a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient’s family, bringing hope to all who are involved.
This edition includes an enlightening introduction by Dr. Ira Byock, a prominent palliative care physician and the author of Dying Well.

On Living by Kerry Egan
As a hospice chaplain, Kerry Egan discovered she’d been granted a powerful chance to witness firsthand what she calls the “spiritual work of dying”—the work of finding or making meaning of one’s life. Instead of talking, she mainly listened to stories of hope and regret, shame and pride, mystery and revelation and secrets held too long. Most of all, though, she listened as her patients talked about love—love for their children and partners and friends; love they didn’t know how to offer; love they gave unconditionally; love they, sometimes belatedly, learned to grant themselves.
On Living isn’t a book about dying—it’s a book about living. And Egan isn’t just passively bearing witness to these stories. Each of her patients taught her something about what matters in the end—how to find courage in the face of fear or the strength to make amends; how to be profoundly compassionate and fiercely empathetic; how to see the world in grays instead of black and white.

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant
From Facebook’s COO and Wharton’s top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life’s inevitable setbacks.
After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.

Present through the End by Kirsten DeLeo
Present Through the End is a go-to resource for everyone supporting someone at the end of life–from the moment we first learn that someone is dying through the time of death and beyond.
Inspired by decades of experience caring for the dying and years teaching contemplative care around the world, Kirsten DeLeo shares down-to-earth advice and offers simple tools to help us handle our emotions, deal with difficult relationships, talk about spiritual matters, practice self-care, listen fully, and more.
This book offers insight to be present when we may feel helpless, love when loss is just around the corner, and be fully alive to each moment as time runs out.

Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child by Gary Roe
Unthinkable. Unbelievable. Heartbreaking.
Whatever words we choose, they all fall far short of the reality.
The loss of a child is a terrible thing.
How do we survive this? Can we?
Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child was written to help.
Bestselling author, hospice chaplain, and grief specialist Gary Roe uses his three decades of experience interacting with grieving parents to give us this heartfelt, easy-to-read, and intensely practical book.
In Shattered, Roe walks the reader through the powerful impact a child’s death can have – emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, and spiritually.
- Intense, unpredictable emotions can hijack us at a moment’s notice.
- Our minds spin. We forget things. It feels like we’re going crazy.
- Our bodies get hit. Our health can be impacted.
- Our souls feel crushed, shaking our faith and what we think we believe.
- Our relationships change. A deep loneliness of the heart can set in.
- Our plans and dreams are shattered. We’re now in uncharted territory.
Yes, the loss of a child affects everything.
In Shattered, you will discover how to…
- Manage the massive changes that are occurring in your life
- Take care of yourself during this process
- Honor your child with your grief
- Love those around you, even with a broken heart
- Live life as well as possible while in the midst of great pain
- Make your child’s life count in deep and powerful ways
Shattered is not a magic pill. The death of a child cannot be fixed. But comfort, compassion, guidance, and hope can be found in these pages.
We will never be the same, but we can survive. And to some degree, we can heal. Shattered can help. Open this book, and let the healing continue.

The Soul of Care by Arthur Kleinman
A moving memoir and an extraordinary love story that shows how an expert physician became a family caregiver and learned why care is so central to all our lives and yet is at risk in today’s world.
When Dr. Arthur Kleinman, an eminent Harvard psychiatrist and social anthropologist, began caring for his wife, Joan, after she was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s disease, he found just how far the act of caregiving extended beyond the boundaries of medicine. In The Soul of Care: The Moral Education of a Husband and a Doctor, Kleinman delivers a deeply humane and inspiring story of his life in medicine and his marriage to Joan, and he describes the practical, emotional and moral aspects of caretaking. He also writes about the problems our society faces as medical technology advances and the cost of health care soars but caring for patients no longer seems important.
Caregiving is long, hard, unglamorous work–at moments joyous, more often tedious, sometimes agonizing, but it is always rich in meaning. In the face of our current political indifference and the challenge to the health care system, he emphasizes how we must ask uncomfortable questions of ourselves, and of our doctors. To give care, to be “present” for someone who needs us, and to feel and show kindness are deep emotional and moral experiences, enactments of our core values. The practice of caregiving teaches us what is most important in life and reveals the very heart of what it is to be human.

Surviving the Year of Firsts by Alycia W. Morales
Your child is gone. Your heart is broken.
How on earth do you survive this?
When we’re preparing for motherhood, we don’t expect to have to bury our children four, nineteen, or thirty-six years later. Nor are we prepared for grief’s assault on us and those we love. Is there any hope left in this life? And if so, where do you find it?
Alycia Morales knows your grief is as unique as you are and will help you navigate the foggy forest of child loss, a journey she’s survived multiple times.
In 52 bite-sized chapters, with deep biblical insight and genuine compassion, Alycia will help you:
- push through the pain and heartbreak of grief, with hope to discover a new normal where the ache remains but death has lost its sting
- continue to put one foot in front of the other, taking small steps toward getting back to living a life that not only honors the Lord, but honors your child’s memory as well
- learn to refocus your thoughts, taking them captive to the Way, the Truth, and the Life, rather than dwelling on death’s doorstep
- seek out the treasures in daily life and walk in gratitude as you journey down this path with God
Despite the heartbreak and devastation you currently feel, you can experience healing, hope, and joy. An abundance of life remains for you this side of heaven. Let’s go find it.

That Good Night by Sunita Puri
As the American born daughter of immigrants, Dr. Sunita Puri knew from a young age that the gulf between her parents’ experiences and her own was impossible to bridge, save for two elements: medicine and spirituality. Between days spent waiting for her mother, an anesthesiologist, to exit the OR, and evenings spent in conversation with her parents about their faith, Puri witnessed the tension between medicine’s impulse to preserve life at all costs and a spiritual embrace of life’s temporality. And it was that tension that eventually drew Puri, a passionate but unsatisfied medical student, to palliative medicine–a new specialty attempting to translate the border between medical intervention and quality-of-life care.
Interweaving evocative stories of Puri’s family and the patients she cares for, That Good Night is a stunning meditation on impermanence and the role of medicine in helping us to live and die well, arming readers with information that will transform how we communicate with our doctors about what matters most to us.

When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi
#1 New York Times Bestseller • Pulitzer Prize Finalist • Named One of the Best Books of the Year by The New York Times Book Review, People, NPR, The Washington Post, Slate, Harper’s Bazaar, Time Out New York, Publishers Weekly, and BookPage
At the age of thirty-six, on the verge of completing a decade’s worth of training as a neurosurgeon, Paul Kalanithi was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. And just like that, the future he and his wife had imagined evaporated. When Breath Becomes Air chronicles Kalanithi’s transformation from a naïve medical student to a neurosurgeon at Stanford working on the brain, the most critical place for human identity, and finally into a patient and new father confronting his own mortality.
Paul Kalanithi died in March 2015 while working on this book, yet his words live on as a guide and a gift to us all. When Breath Becomes Air is an unforgettable, life-affirming reflection on the challenge of facing death and on the relationship between doctor and patient, from a brilliant writer who became both.

When Children Grieve by John W. James and Russell Friedman with Dr. Leslie Landon Matthews
“Once in a generation, a book comes along that alters the way society views a topic. When Children Grieve is an essential primer for parents and others who interact with children on a regular basis.” — Bernard McGrane, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, Chapman University and U.C. Irvine
The first—and definitive—guide to helping children really deal with loss from the authors of the The Grief Recovery Handbook
Following deaths, divorces, pet loss, or the confusion of major relocation, many adults—in an effort to provide emotional support for kids—tell their children “don’t feel bad.” In fact, say the authors of the bestselling The Grief Recovery Handbook, feeling bad or sad is precisely the appropriate emotion attached to sad events. Encouraging a child to bypass grief without completion can cause unseen long-term damage.
When Children Grieve, an essential parenting guide for grief, helps parents break through the misinformation that surrounds the topic of grief. It pinpoints the six major myths that hamper children in adapting to life’s inevitable losses. Practical and compassionate, it guides parents in creating emotional safety and spells out specific actions to help children move forward successfully.
This landmark book provides the concrete actions and compassionate guidance every adult needs to help a child navigate the pain of loss.
- The Six Myths of Grief: Learn why common advice like ‘don’t feel bad’ or ‘be strong’ can cause long-term harm and what to say instead.
- Child Grief and Bereavement: Understand the unique way children process loss―from the death of a grandparent to divorce or a major move―and how to create emotional safety for them.
- Coping with Pet Loss: Discover specific, compassionate actions to help a child say goodbye to a beloved pet, one of their first and most profound experiences with grief.
- Actionable Steps for Healing: Move beyond theory with a step-by-step method for helping your child complete their relationship to the pain and find a path forward.

When Dinosaurs Die by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown
Straightforward and compassionate, When Dinosaurs Die explains death, dying, and coping with grief and loss in simple and accessible language for young kids and families.
No one can really understand death, but to children, the passing away of a loved one can be especially perplexing and troublesome. This helpful book provides answers to kids’ most-often asked questions and also explores the feelings we may have regarding the death of a loved one, and the ways to remember someone after he or she has died.
Satisfying and comprehensive, this indispensable book is a comforting aid to help all children through a difficult time in their lives.

With the End in Mind by Kathryn Mannix
For readers of Atul Gawande and Paul Kalanithi, a palliative care doctor’s breathtaking stories from 30 years spent caring for the dying.
Modern medical technology is allowing us to live longer and fuller lives than ever before. And for the most part, that is good news. But with changes in the way we understand medicine come changes in the way we understand death. Once a familiar, peaceful, and gentle — if sorrowful — transition, death has come to be something from which we shield our eyes, as we prefer to fight desperately against it rather than accept its inevitability.
Dr. Kathryn Mannix has studied and practiced palliative care for thirty years. In With the End in Mind, she shares beautifully crafted stories from a lifetime of caring for the dying and makes a compelling case for the therapeutic power of approaching death not with trepidation, but with openness, clarity, and understanding. Weaving the details of her own experiences as a caregiver through stories of her patients, their families, and their distinctive lives, Dr. Mannix reacquaints us with the universal, but deeply personal, process of dying.
With insightful meditations on life, death, and the space between them, With the End in Mind describes the possibility of meeting death gently, with forethought and preparation, and shows the unexpected beauty, dignity, and profound humanity of life coming to an end.

The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
In the Year of Magical Thinking, Joan Didion explores an intensely personal yet universal experience; this book is a portrait of a marriage–and a life, in good times and bad–that will speak to anyone who has ever loved a husband or wife or child
Several days before Christmas 2003, John Gregory Dunne and Joan Didion saw their only daughter, Quintana, fall ill with what seemed at first flu, then pneumonia, then complete septic shock. Days later the Dunnes were just sitting down to dinner after visiting the hospital when John Gregory Dunne suffered a massive and fatal coronary. In a second, this close, symbiotic partnership of forty years was over. Four weeks later, their daughter pulled through. Two months later, she collapsed and underwent six hours of brain surgery at UCLA Medical Center to relieve a massive hematoma.
This powerful book is Didion’s attempt to make sense of the “weeks and then months that cut loose any fixed idea I ever had about death, about illness… about marriage and children and memory… about the shallowness of sanity, about life itself.”
LIBROS SOBRE DUELO

Aprendiendo a Decir Adiós por Marcelo Rittner
Este libro de Marcelo Rittner te dice cómo el dolor “que te ciega, te enfurece” es un sentimiento que tienes que vencer para convertirlo en un camino de liberación, para darte cuenta de que la esencia de ese ser querido sigue acompañándote, guiándote, y que realmente no lo has perdido. Aprenderás que la lealtad a la vida es la que nos permite aprender a decir adiós.

El Camino Hacia Un Duelo Consciente: La relación plena con el duelo. Un mensaje de consuelo, amor y esperanza en el lenguaje del alma

En este libro la autora Ana McParland-González formula lo que llama el camino hacia un duelo consciente, donde el dolor por la muerte de un ser querido, nos abre la oportunidad de crecimiento emocional y espiritual y dan fortaleza al ser humano para entender la muerte en la vida.
Escrito con el lenguaje del alma en su lengua materna, la autora confiesa que escribir durante su proceso de duelo, en momentos tenía que detenerse para dejar fluir su llanto. Darle espacio a sus emociones le ayudó a seguir compartiendo su proceso y descubrir el oleaje emocional y su método de las tres D’s para vivir su duelo de manera plena. Ana desea compartir su experiencia como una alternativa diferente de navegar un duelo, con ese dolor que produce la muerte de un ser querido y transformar el sufrimiento con compasión, mindfulness, expresión creativa, meditación y oración entre otros recursos que conduzcan a encontrar el consuelo para continuar el camino.

Tu Camino para Sanar por Gaby Pérez Islas, Renata Roa, Claudia Sánchez M. y Mercedes D'Acosta
Cada uno de los doce verbos que conforman este libro es un paso que debemos dar en el camino hacia el amor propio y el autocuidado.
Las cuatro especialistas que aquí se reúnen crearon un plan integral de sanación que te muestra cómo cuidarte.

Cómo Curar un Corazón Roto por Gaby Pérez Islas
Gaby Pérez Islas te guía y aconseja sobre qué hacer ante una pérdida, qué no decir al confortar, lo que sí ayuda, cómo explicar a los niños situaciones límite, reponerse, recuperar la autoestima y el sentido de seguridad, y salir fortalecido para alcanzar de nuevo una vida feliz.

Cuando Pierdes a un Ser Querido por David y Nancy Guthri
En este libro, los autores exploran las dinámicas familiares involucradas cuando muere alguien. A través de su propia experiencia de perder dos hijos pequeños, muestran cómo la aflicción puede acercar de verdad a la familia en lugar de destrozarla.

La Cuna Vacía por M. Àngels Claramunt, Mónica Álvarez, Rosa Jové y Emilio Santos
La cuna vacía es un libro cuya intención es de aportar luz a las parejas ante la pérdida de un bebé en algún momento del embarazo. En estas páginas encontrarás información, sobre el buen acompañamiento y el apoyo del entorno, la intervención psicológica, la despedida, los rituales tras la pérdida y los estudios médicos posteriores.

Después de las Mariposas por Guillermina Pilgram
¿Quién le abriría la puerta a un muerto? Eso se pregunta Mariela Bauer cuando escucha por el intercomunicador de su casa que el señor Jaime Quiroz quiere verla, veintitrés años después de haber sido encontrado sin vida. Después de las mariposas es una novela que combina elementos de ficción y realidad, para transportarnos al México de las últimas décadas del siglo XX. En medio de un reencuentro insólito, Jaime y Mariela —amigos de juventud— relatan al alimón sus más profundas heridas y los eventos que marcaron sus vidas. Con un estilo accesible y a veces desgarrador, la autora aborda temas como los amores rotos, la violencia de género, los duelos y el consuelo de la amistad incondicional.
Lo Que Pasa Cuando Mueres por Una Guía Bíblica al Paraíso, el Infierno y la Vida después de la Muerte
El autor Randy Frazee muestra en este libro lo que es simplemente una tradición cultural y lo que es verdaderamente bíblico. Este libro es una guía para enfrentar las preguntas frecuentes acerca de la vida y la muerte, lo que viene después y cómo debemos vivir hasta entonces. Frazee muestra a sus lectores, no solo la muerte de la cual Jesús vino a salvarnos, sino también la vida para la cual vino a salvarnos.

El pequeño libro del duelo por Camila Sodi (audiolibro)

Hay viajes que no elegimos, pero que nos transforman para siempre.
Entre luces y sombras, este libro susurra lo que no siempre sabemos nombrar: el dolor, la ausencia, la esperanza. Con una voz íntima y honesta, Camila Sodi abre una puerta hacia lo invisible, invitándonos a caminar juntos por los territorios del alma.
Una obra que acompaña. Para quienes han perdido. Para quienes han amado. Para quienes aún buscan sentido.

Todo pasa y esto también pasará por Martha Alicia Chávez

Cuando sientas que estás en un callejón sin salida, estas palabras te ayudarán a recuperar la esperanza, la confianza y la alegría de vivir.
Todos en algún momento de nuestra vida sufrimos la pérdida de alguien muy querido o incluso de algo que consideramos muy valioso: nuestros seres más cercanos, la pareja, un amigo entrañable, un objeto muy preciado, una mascota queridísima. Ante ello es inevitable sentir angustia, tristeza, enojo, culpa o hasta podemos perder la confianza en nosotros mismos. Si no sabemos manejarlos, estos sentimientos pueden dejar en nosotros una huella muy profunda que contaminará nuestras vidas. Martha Alicia Chávez proporciona las herramientas para enfrentar este tipo de situaciones. Nos dice cómo podemos superarlas, cómo transitar por el difícil camino de la pérdida, del duelo, y recuperar así la alegría de vivir, la confianza en uno mismo y la propia identidad.

Una Buena Forma para Decir Adiós por César Lozano
En este libro, el Dr. César Lozano nos enfrenta al doloroso, pero inevitable proceso de decir adiós y nos guía por la serie de cambios que cualquier despedida conlleva, ya sea como parte de nuestro crecimiento; la dolorosa muerte de un ser querido; el rompimiento de una relación amorosa; el adiós a una amistad, e incluso, el adiós a los hábitos y costumbres que nos hacen daño.

Visitas desde el Cielo por Pete Deison
Visitas desde el cielo es la bella historia de amor de un hombre y su esposa que rápidamente se convierte en un reflejo del amor de Dios por sus hijos. Esta historia presenta a los lectores una imagen de lo que es la vida de un creyente después de abandonar la tierra. Proporciona un manual de duelo para aquellos que quedan atrás. Se basa profundamente en las Escrituras.
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That’s a big mistake, because if you don’t have an end-of-life plan, your state’s laws decide who gets everything you own. A doctor you’ve never met could decide how you spend your last moments, and your loved ones could be saddled with untangling an expensive legal mess after you die.
Betsy Simmons Hannibal, a senior legal editor at legal website Nolo, puts it this way: Planning for the end of life isn’t about you. “You’re never going to really get the benefit of it. So you might as well think about how it’s going to be a lifetime gift that you’re giving now to your parents or your partner or your children. It really is for the people you love.”
Four prompts to drive conversations regarding the end of our life cycle:
I am…
Before I die, I want…
When I die, I want…
After I die, I want…
Interviews with different individuals covering the four prompts.
Episodes run anywhere from 1 to 2 hours.
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Directed and produced by Perri Peltz and Matthew O’Neill (HBO’s Axios), Alternate Endings: Six New Ways to Die in America offers a fascinating look at the varied ways Americans are choosing to both find meaning and celebrate life as it comes to an end.
With attitudes about death and end-of-life choices rapidly changing, 2018 was the first time more Americans chose cremation over more expensive, traditional burials, disrupting the $16 billion a year funeral industry. As the baby boomer generation approaches death, more and more people are rethinking the ways end of life is recognized and are deciding to take control of what will happen when they die. Touching and heartfelt, the documentary spotlights a subject some might rather avoid, and presents it in a positive and thought-provoking manner – featuring stories of empowerment instead of avoidance.
Alternate Endings tells six stories of people nearing death and of family members of the recently deceased, who have chosen non-traditional end-of-life options and remembrances, from celebrations of life and living wakes, to green burials, extraterrestrial burials and more. Profoundly intimate and illuminating, the film explores what it means to be near death, either from age or terminal illness, and captures the healing power of honoring, giving thanks, and staying true to loved ones who have passed away.
Leila Johnson traveled to the Gulf of Mexico with her mother and aunt to place her father’s cremated remains in a memorial coral reef, a fitting tribute for a man who loved the ocean. After meeting with the director of Memorial Reef International who explains how the memorials create new habitats for ocean life devastated by dying coral, an emotional Leila mixes her father’s ashes with cement, adding a family photo she says will keep him company. The next morning, the cement reef is dropped in the ocean and Leila scuba dives to the seafloor to say a final goodbye, believing her father’s life has been given added meaning.
Guadalupe Cuevas, in San Antonio, Texas, has terminal cancer and is in renal failure. Guadalupe’s son and daughter, Guadalupe, Jr. and Alicia, are planning a living wake for their father, who says, “I’m going to feel like the luckiest person in the world” because his wife, kids and grandkids will all be with him at the gathering. On the day of the event, friends and family enjoy food and music and make emotional tributes to Guadalupe. On their decision to have a living wake, Guadalupe, Jr. says they wanted to make sure that “the guy who’s leaving knows he’s loved.” Guadalupe died peacefully on July 7, 2018 at the age of 80.
Barbara Jean Simon, in Austin, Texas, has pancreatic cancer and is planning her green burial, an environmentally-friendly alternative to traditional burial. Barbara travels to Eloise Woods Back to Nature Burials with her best friend TJ to pick out Barbara’s burial plot. Describing the process in which TJ will wash her body after she dies, Barbara says she’s overwhelmed by the unconditional love she feels. On April 28, 2018, Barbara died peacefully at home. Later, her friends and family wrap her body in biodegradable cloth and carry her to where she’ll be buried in a shallow grave next to a newly planted tree.
Sara Snider Green has chosen a space burial for her father “Tuna”, who she says was fascinated by space and time travel. Sara, her two kids and family friend Lisa are one of forty-five families who have come to Sierra County, New Mexico, to memorialize their loved ones by sending their cremated remains into space. Hitching a ride as a “secondary payload” with NASA, the families cheer as the rocket with the ashes of their loved ones is launched into space.
Dick Shannon, a former Silicon Valley engineer in Grass Valley, California, has terminal cancer. Having exhausted his treatment options, Dick has decided to use “medical aid in dying” (MAID), a legal procedure in the state. At a doctor’s visit, Dick and his wife learn the parameters for how he should take the drug cocktail that will end his life. Six months later, with his lungs failing, Dick hosts a get-together of close friends to say goodbye, and later shares a last dinner with his family. With his loved ones at his side, Dick died on his own terms on May 1, 2018. He was 76.
Emily and Ryan Matthias, in Van Meter, Iowa, had a five-year-old son Garrett who was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2017. When Garrett died, his parents respected his wishes not to have a funeral and instead held a party, a celebration of life, which took place ten days after his death. The event had everything that Garrett wanted – bouncy houses, snow cones and lots of kids having fun.
Alternate Endings: Six New Ways to Die in America is directed and produced by Matthew O’Neill and Perri Peltz; executive producers, Sheila Nevins, Jacqueline Glover; produced by Leah Williams, Xochitl Dorsey; edited by David Meneses; cinematography, Taylor Krauss and Matthew O’Neill; original music by Jonathan Zalben.
Billionaire Edward Cole (Jack Nicholson) and car mechanic Carter Chambers (Morgan Freeman) are complete strangers, until fate lands them in the same hospital room. The men find they have two things in common: a need to come to terms with who they are and what they have done with their lives, and a desire to complete a list of things they want to see and do before they die. Against their doctor’s advice, the men leave the hospital and set out on the adventure of a lifetime.
In Disney/Pixar’s vibrant tale of family, fun and adventure, aspiring young musician named Miguel (voice of newcomer Anthony Gonzalez) embarks on an extraordinary journey to the magical land of his ancestors. There, the charming trickster Hector (voice of Gael Garcia Bernal) becomes an unexpected friend who helps Miguel uncover the mysteries behind his family’s stories and traditions.
Accomplished sports writer Mitch Albom (Hank Azaria) feels that his life is lacking, despite his success. When Mitch watches a television interview with his former university professor, Morrie Schwartz (Jack Lemmon), he is moved to reconnect with his old mentor, who is struggling with Lou Gehrig’s disease. As Mitch and Morrie get reacquainted, they engage in thoughtful conversations about a variety of significant topics, including love, happiness and death.
Professor Vivian Bearing (Emma Thompson), an expert on the work of 17th-century British poet John Donne, has spent her adult life contemplating religion and death as literary motifs. Diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer, she consents to an aggressive and experimental form of chemotherapy administered by Dr. Kelekian (Christopher Lloyd) and his assistant, Dr. Posner (Jonathan M. Woodward), her former student. Facing death on a personal level, she reflects on her life and work.
Featured Talks

A Brief but Spectacular Take on Compassionate Care During COVID-19
Dr. Diane Meier is the director of the Center to Advance Palliative Care in New York City. As a palliative care specialist, she has an intimate view of how the coronavirus pandemic is affecting patients and their loved ones. Meier shares her Brief But Spectacular take on showing compassion during COVID-19.

The Journey Through Loss And Grief
In her brutally honest, ironically funny and widely read meditation on death, “You May Want to Marry My Husband,” the late author and filmmaker Amy Krouse Rosenthal gave her husband Jason very public permission to move on and find happiness. A year after her death, Jason offers candid insights on the often excruciating process of moving through and with loss — as well as some quiet wisdom for anyone else experiencing life-changing grief.
In a talk that’s by turns heartbreaking and hilarious, writer and podcaster Nora McInerny shares her hard-earned wisdom about life and death. Her candid approach to something that will, let’s face it, affect us all, is as liberating as it is gut-wrenching. Most powerfully, she encourages us to shift how we approach grief. “A grieving person is going to laugh again and smile again,” she says. “They’re going to move forward. But that doesn’t mean that they’ve moved on.”

What Really Matters At The End Of Life
At the end of our lives, what do we most wish for? For many, it’s simply comfort, respect, love. BJ Miller is a hospice and palliative medicine physician who thinks deeply about how to create a dignified, graceful end of life for his patients. Take the time to savor this moving talk, which asks big questions about how we think on death and honor life.

What Makes Life Worth Living In The Face of Death
In this deeply moving talk, Lucy Kalanithi reflects on life and purpose, sharing the story of her late husband, Paul, a young neurosurgeon who turned to writing after his terminal cancer diagnosis. “Engaging in the full range of experience — living and dying, love and loss — is what we get to do,” Kalanithi says. “Being human doesn’t happen despite suffering — it happens within it.”

Why thinking about death helps you live a better life
“As a death doula, or someone who supports dying people and their loved ones, Alua Arthur spends a lot of time thinking about the end of life. In a profound talk that examines our brief, perfectly human time on this planet, she asks us to look at our lives through the lens of our deaths in seeking to answer the question: “What must I do to be at peace with myself so that I may live presently and die gracefully?”
The Journey Through Loss And Grief
What Really Matters At The End Of Life
What Makes Life Worth Living In The Face of Death
Prepare for a Good End of Life
A brief but spectacular take on compassionate care during COVID-19
Why Thinking About Death Helps You Live a Better Life
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Películas Sobre la Muerte y el Duelo
A pesar de la prohibición de la música de varias generaciones de su familia, el joven Miguel sueña con convertirse en un músico consumado como su ídolo Ernesto de la Cruz. Desesperado por demostrar su talento, Miguel se encuentra en la impresionante y colorida Tierra de los Muertos. Después de conocer a un encantador tramposo llamado Héctor, los dos nuevos amigos se embarcan en un viaje extraordinario para descubrir la verdadera historia familiar de Miguel.
En este clásico de Disney, un joven ciervo llamado Bambi se une a sus nuevos amigos, un conejo llamado Thumper y una mofeta llamada Flower, para explorar su hogar en el bosque. Cuando era niño, aprende de su cariñosa madre y de su padre, el Gran Príncipe del Bosque, que hay peligros en los prados abiertos donde los cazadores pueden ver a los animales, y conoce a una hermosa joven llamada Faline. A medida que Bambi crece, aprende que hay tragedia, así como belleza y alegría en su mundo forestal y en el camino hacia la edad adulta.
El multimillonario Edward Cole (Jack Nicholson) y el mecánico de automóviles Carter Chambers (Morgan Freeman) son completos extraños, hasta que el destino los lleva a la misma habitación del hospital. Los hombres descubren que tienen dos cosas en común: la necesidad de aceptar quiénes son y lo que han hecho con sus vidas, y el deseo de completar una lista de cosas que quieren ver y hacer antes de morir. En contra del consejo de su médico, los hombres abandonan el hospital y emprenden la aventura de su vida.
Esta película animada de Disney sigue las aventuras del joven león Simba, el heredero de su padre, Mufasa. El malvado tío de Simba, Scar, planea usurpar el trono de Mufasa atrayendo a padre e hijo a una estampida de ñus. Pero Simba escapa y solo Mufasa muere. Simba regresa como adulto para recuperar su tierra natal de Scar con la ayuda de sus amigos Timon y Pumba.
Después de perder a su madre, un niño es enviado a un hogar de acogida con otros huérfanos de su edad, donde comienza a aprender el significado de la confianza y el amor verdadero.
Kate (Meryl Streep), la matriarca infravalorada de la familia Gulden, es diagnosticada con cáncer. La hija y periodista Ellen (Renée Zellweger) regresa de la ciudad de Nueva York para cuidar a su madre a petición de su padre (William Hurt). Durante el tiempo que Kate pasa con sus padres, descubre secretos que nunca conoció en su infancia. Aunque Ellen siempre ha idolatrado a su padre, se entera de que su madre ha tenido una vida mucho más difícil de lo que pensaba.
En una pequeña ciudad del Norte de Italia, vive apaciblemente una familia formada por los padres (Giovanni y Paola) y dos hijos adolescentes: Irene, la mayor, y Andrea, el pequeño. Giovanni es psicoanalista. En su consulta, situada al lado de su apartamento, sus pacientes le confían sus neurosis, que contrastan con la calma de su propia existencia. Su vida se rige por una serie de costumbres o aficiones: leer, escuchar música, aislarse y agotarse haciendo largas carreras por la ciudad. Un domingo por la mañana, Giovanni tiene que salir para atender una urgencia, así que no puede ir a correr con su hijo como le había propuesto; el chico decide entonces ir a bucear con sus amigos.

Carlos Cristos, Galicia (1956). Licenciado en Medicina y Cirugía. Como médico de familia ha ejercido en Mallorca, donde reside con su mujer Carmen Font, también médico, y con Carmela, su hija de 10 años.
Como médico ha tenido que transmitir a muchos pacientes sus diagnósticos que son muy graves y ha tenido que acompañar a alguno de ellos hasta el final de su vida.
Pero un día Carlos se sentó ante su médico; ahora era él quien escuchaba su diagnóstico: AMS atrofia sistémica múltiple, una enfermedad neurodegenerativa, invalidante y mortal.
Carlos Cristos es una de esas voces que, como médico y como enfermo, reclama una vida y una muerte digna. Por eso invita a su amigo y director de cine Antoni P. Canet a que le acompañe en una narración: su camino hacia la muerte.
Tres personas que emprenden un viaje espiritual después de que la muerte afecta sus vidas de diferentes maneras. George (Matt Damon) es un trabajador de la construcción en San Francisco que puede comunicarse con los muertos. La reportera francesa Marie LeLay (Cécile de France) tiene una visión sobrenatural después de casi morir en el tsunami del Océano Índico de 2004. Mientras tanto, un colegial londinense sufre la pérdida de la persona más cercana a él.
Cuando Ann (Sarah Polley), madre trabajadora de dos hijos, descubre que tiene un cáncer de ovario terminal y los médicos le dan dos meses de vida, decide ocultarle a su familia la noticia. Haciendo pasar su creciente debilidad como un caso leve de anemia, Ann comienza a poner sus prioridades en orden en preparación para los últimos meses de su vida. Graba mensajes de cumpleaños para sus hijas, visita a su padre separado en prisión e incluso busca una esposa de reemplazo para su esposo, Lee (Mark Ruffalo).
Mar Adentro cuenta la historia de Ramón Sampedro, un pescador de 25 años -interpretado por el galardonado actor Javier Bardem- que se quedó tetrapléjico a causa de un accidente saltando al mar, y sobre su larga lucha para ganarse el derecho a terminar su vida con dignidad.
Frankie Dunn (Clint Eastwood) es un entrenador veterano de box de Los Ángeles que mantiene casi todos a distancia, excepto a su viejo amigo y socio Eddie “Scrap Iron” Dupris (Morgan Freeman). Cuando Maggie Fitzgerald (Hilary Swank) llega al gimnasio de Frankie en busca de su experiencia, él se muestra reacio a entrenar a la joven, un trasplante de la clase trabajadora de Missouri. Finalmente cede y los dos forman un vínculo estrecho que los cambiará irrevocablemente a ambos.
En una película que juega con la idea de una narración sencilla, un grupo de personas con problemas descubre que están vinculadas de manera impredecible. Paul Rivers (Sean Penn) es un académico que se enfrenta a una enfermedad cardíaca terminal, pero su vida cambia debido a un accidente automovilístico que parece no estar relacionado con su dolencia. El accidente de tráfico, que involucra al ex convicto Jack Jordan (Benicio Del Toro) y el esposo de Cristina Peck (Naomi Watts), arruina vidas pero finalmente también las resucita.
Edward Bloom es un hombre que relata momentos de su vida añadiéndoles características fantásticas. Cuando lo hace en la boda de su hijo Will, éste deja de hablarle durante tres años. Trabajará como periodista en París y cuando la salud de su padre empeora, Will regresa junto a su esposa Josephine a Alabama.
Hazel Grace Lancaster (Shailene Woodley), una paciente de cáncer de 16 años, conoce y se enamora de Gus Waters (Ansel Elgort), un adolescente igualmente afligido de su grupo de apoyo para el cáncer. Hazel siente que Gus realmente la comprende. Ambos comparten el mismo ingenio mordaz y amor por los libros, especialmente la piedra de toque de Grace, “An Imperial Affliction” de Peter Van Houten. Cuando Gus recibe una invitación para conocer al autor solitario, él y Hazel se embarcan en la aventura de sus breves vidas.
Ben Thomas es un hombre con una misión. Dar partes vitales de su cuerpo a aquellos que necesitan desesperadamente un donante. Ben conoce a Emily Posa, una hermosa joven en riesgo de sufrir una enfermedad cardíaca mortal. Cuando Ben se enamora de Emily y comienza a abrirse con ella, queda claro que hay algo oscuro en su pasado que lo obliga a cometer estos aparentes actos de bondad al azar.
Sam Wheat (Patrick Swayze) es banquero, Molly Jensen (Demi Moore) es artista y los dos están locamente enamorados. Sin embargo, cuando Sam es asesinado por su amigo y socio corrupto Carl Bruner (Tony Goldwyn) por un turbio negocio, se queda vagando por la tierra como un espíritu impotente. Cuando se entera de la traición de Carl, Sam debe buscar la ayuda de la psíquica Oda Mae Brown (Whoopi Goldberg) para arreglar las cosas y proteger a Molly de Carl y sus matones.
Después de que Chris Nielsen (Robin Williams) muere en un accidente automovilístico, su guía espiritual, Albert (Cuba Gooding Jr.) lo guía a través del más allá. Su nuevo mundo es hermoso y puede ser lo que Chris imagina. Incluso sus hijos están ahí. Pero, cuando su esposa, Annie (Annabella Sciorra), se suicida y es enviada al infierno, Chris ignora las advertencias de Albert y viaja allí para salvarla. Al llegar, Chris descubre que rescatar a Annie será más difícil de lo que había imaginado.
Tres generaciones de una familia se unen por una mujer enferma cuyo deseo es morir antes de que su enfermedad empeore.
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In January 2019, CEO Siobhan Greene had the opportunity to interview two of the founders of the first Hospice in Monterey. Oncology nurse Becky Allen and psychologist Stephen Connor worked with Dr. Jerry Rubin in the 1970s. This series of interview clips share their stories and the rich history of compassion through end of life in Monterey County.

Analiza el fenómeno de la muerte de un hijo en la familia desde diversos ángulos y perspectivas: desde la vivencia de los padres, las respuestas de la ciencia ante el tema, y los puntos de vista desde la filosofía, la teología y la poesía.




